It Is What It Is ~ Accept It

Acceptance.  A very big word, isn’t it?  A word that has so many implications for a plethora of reasons.  “Just accept it!”  “I accept it.”  “It has been accepted.” “Why can’t you accept it?” “When are you going to accept it?” “Where do we accept it?” “Thank you, I accept.” “I do not accept!”  “That it unacceptable!” “Just accept it and move on.”

That last one is a biggie.  We hear that one a lot, don’t we?  Like we have no control over anything in our lives anymore, so we just accept the shit sandwich handed to us and move on to the next crappola.  Right?  Accept it!  You know I’m right!

Well, I find that completely unacceptable!!  We do have to accept some things some of the time because situations are just simply out of our control.  However, we do not have to accept someone’s bad behavior, lies, versions of their truths, or abuse.  We do not have to accept anyone’s negativity.  I don’t and I won’t!

“Take lightly what you hear about individuals. We need not distort trust for our paltry little political agendas. We tend to trust soulless, carried information more than we trust soulful human beings; but really most people aren’t so bad once you sit down and have an honest, one-on-one conversation with them, once, with an open heart, you listen to their explanations as to why they act the way they act, or say what they say, or do what they do.”  ― Criss Jami, Healology

I believe what most of us are searching for in life is acceptance.  That who we are is enough.  That our people that we love and care for will just accept and love us for who we are and that will always be enough.  Acceptance carries with it a trust that your tribe has your back and will stand up for you when they hear something disparaging about you.   Acceptance means that you never doubt yourself, your confidence, or the people that you have put your love and trust into.

Often times, we lose people in our lives because we haven’t accepted ourselves.  We don’t trust ourselves or believe in our own power of honesty or love.  Other times, we lose people because they don’t have faith in our ability to be who we truly are.  Finding a middle ground for acceptance takes us down many roads throughout our lives.  We are constantly learning, growing, changing and moving.  We meet new people, lose people and let people go.  That is human nature and that is what is so terrifying about acceptance.

If you can’t accept yourself and love yourself, how can anyone else accept and love you?  I wish someone had started to pound these lessons into my brain when I was younger.  I’ve spent so many years of my life searching for acceptance from all the wrong people and in the wrong places, but I can honestly say that I truly appreciate and love who I am now.  I accept who I am and I can love the people in my life with all my heart and without prejudice.

I don’t really know if I get the same as I give, but that doesn’t really matter to me anymore.  The truth about acceptance is knowing in your soul that who you are is good enough to be here on this earth to make a difference.  I can’t know or understand how other people feel, but I can still love them.  I can’t change my past or my future, but I can change my reaction to both.  I can choose to accept postive thoughts and turn away from negativity.  I can accept love, faith, honesty and kindness.

I won’t accept bitterness, hatred, thoughtlessness, hurtfulness, unkindness, or meanness.  I won’t accept living in a past that I can’t change or a future that I can’t know.  I won’t accept negativity if I can help it…every dog does have it’s day…I will try to be as kind and happy as I can be.  I can accept it is what it is…

Peace, love and light

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